Start Agreeing Now, for What Comes Next

Even if agreement has always been hard, now is the moment to begin. Why? Because this next phase of your relationship—especially if children are involved—depends on it.

When both people are willing to pause the fighting long enough to work together, something shifts. You begin to create a positive feedback loop. You experience what it feels like to move forward with more calm, less stress, and (yes!) mutual respect.

5 Ways to Show Gratitude to Your Former Spouse During Divorce

Gratitude might feel unnatural at first. But practicing it—especially when it’s hard—can help reframe your experience and change the energy of the entire process.

Here are five simple but powerful ways to show appreciation:

1. Thank them for showing up. Whether it’s participating in mediation, attending a co-parenting class, or simply being willing to talk, acknowledge that effort. It shows they care about doing this the right way—even if it’s uncomfortable. “I know this isn’t easy. Thanks for being here and for being willing to talk through things.”

2. Recognize their strengths as a parent. You may no longer be a couple, but you’re still a parenting team. A little validation goes a long way when emotions are high. “I know we have our differences, but I’ve always appreciated how much you love the kids.”

3. Acknowledge the good times. Your marriage likely wasn’t all bad. A nod to the good memories or what you built together can shift the dynamic, even briefly.

“We’ve had our ups and downs, but I’m grateful for the life we built and what we’ve learned along the way.”

4. Be generous with grace. Assume positive intent. Maybe they missed a deadline or misunderstood something—don’t jump to conclusions. Patience and a softer tone can change everything. “I know this is stressful for both of us. Let’s give each other a little room to figure it out.”

5. Thank them for cooperating. Even small compromises deserve recognition. A simple “thank you” can build momentum for continued collaboration. “I appreciate you being flexible with the schedule. It helps.”

Divorce Doesn’t Have to Be a Battlefield

You may never agree on what led to the divorce—but you can agree on this: You want to move forward in a way that serves your family.

That’s what we help you do at Family Transitions. Whether your relationship evolves into friendship, co-parenting, or a peaceful parting, we’re here to support that journey with clarity, compassion, and calm.

Schedule your free consultation today to learn more about your options. We’ll meet you where you are, walk you through your ideal next steps, and help you build a plan that works—for you and your family.

Because peace is possible—even when agreement feels far away.